What if you stopped making life harder on yourself?
It's not like you wake up in the morning planning to trip yourself up.
The habits creating extra stress and struggle may feel totally normal -- even socially appropriate.
Habits like...
- Staying up late scrolling even when you're exhausted
- Holding your pee because you don't want to stop what you're doing
- Asking, “What do you want to do?” when you already know exactly what you want to do
- Finishing a major project and immediately listing what's next
- Checking your message after you send it because you're worried you sounded rude
- Getting a compliment and immediately explaining why it's not true or warrented
- Keeping something painful to yourself because you don't want to “burden” anyone
- Deleting a photo of yourself because you don't like how your body looks
These ↑ aren't just signs of being busy, humble, or a little insecure.
They're ways you may be overriding, doubting, or criticizing yourself — and thinking it's normal.
It's exhausting trying to keep yourself that small.
What changes when you treat yourself like someone you love instead?
When you stop spending so much energy fighting yourself, you're better able to:
- be gentle and kind towards yourself
- assert boundaries without stressing out
- trust yourself
- accept love, support, and affection from others.
- feel playful and lighthearted
- Exercise and eat better because it feels good, instead of being a way you punish yourself
- sleep soundly
- enjoy your life because you're less in your head and more in the moment.
Self-love isn't about being cheesy.
It's about being so solid on the inside that you stop draining your energy by censoring, second-guessing, or 💩'ing on yourself — and start enjoying life as yourself.
Enter the "I Love Myself" Experiment
In his book Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, Kamal Ravikant proposes that repeatedly telling yourself "I love myself" can radically change your life.Â
To test his theory, a small group and I started a daily "I love myself" practice last December.Â
As of Day 260, I'm seeing big changes in my life, even in areas I'd previously been trying to shift for years.
Now I want to invite you to join me for the final 90-days of my year-long practice and experience it for yourself.
The Hypothesis
This is not a course where I teach Kamal Ravikant’s system. Think of it more like a guided study group: his book puts forward the practice, and we are doing it consistently together to see what actually changes.Â
I provide the structure, daily accountability, group support, journaling prompts, and optional practices that help you stay with it.
The book's hypothesis:
Saying “I love myself” every day can positively impact how you think and act, potentially rewiring your brain, building your self-esteem, and healing yourself from the inside out
The practice:
Five-minute mirror practice once a day for 30, 60, or 90 days.
The experiment:
What changes when you commit to practicing self-love daily — in your thoughts, feelings, and actions?Â
The Experiment is easy
Every day you look in your eyes in the mirror and say "I love myself" for 5 minutes.
That's it.
There are optional extras to deepen your love, but it's really as simple as 5 minutes a day.
You gotta work the practice for the practice to work on you.
It's like building a muscle — you don't get ripped arms from one day of bicep curls. The repetition is what creates the impact.
You gotta work the practice for the practice to work on you.
It's like building a muscle — you don't get ripped arms from one day of bicep curls. The repetition is what creates the impact.
Here's what past participants noticed over time
Around 7 days
Awkward! “This feels weird” is the consensus. Yet, there are already moments of standing taller and making more eye contact with ourselves in the mirror.
Around two weeks
“I love myself” is becoming a daily mantra. It pops up spontaneously and interrupts mean thoughts, sometimes ending them completely.
Around three weeks
Oof. Grief comes up. We start noticing how harsh and unloving we had been with ourselves in the past. It feels like the practice is pulling up deep inner weeds.
Around 30 days
Woohoo! Month 1 done! We're feeling more gentle, forgiving, and caring for ourselves. It's still clunky to feel love during the practice, instead of just say it.Â
Around 45 to 60 days
Love is turning into action! Group members are making different choices, so what they do is loving too. For example, a trip to the gym turns from a chore to self-loving gift.
Over longer periods
The lasting effects start showing! Feeling lighter and happier. More grounded and less hurried. Letting others in more and feeling more loved and liked by the people in our lives. The love is real!
In my experience, the longer you practice, the more lasting changes you'll enjoy.
Choose How Long You'll Experiment
You can join the Experiment for 30-, 60-, or the full 90-days.
Questions you might have
What if I miss a day?
What if it feels fake?
Do I have to share in the group?
How much time does it take?
What is optional versus required?
Is this therapy?
How does the Telegram group work?
I just finished 260 days of "I love myself."
Hey! I'm Alexis, a self-help author and your guide for the Experiment.
In December 2025, I read Kamal Ravikant's book Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It and decided to try the daily mirror practice for an entire year.
I just passed Day 260 and can confidently say that loving yourself can change everything, from how you dress and what you eat, to the quality of your relationships and how you feel in your body.
So far, it's helped me:
- Feel more playful and kind about my body, even after gaining 30 pounds in 3 months
- Close the chapter on 8 years of fertility treatments knowing I did my best and loving myself enough to move on.
- Open to two new friendships in which I feel truly seen, supported, and liked after years of holding back because I feared I wasn't loveable.
More than anything, it's shown me the habits, choices, and beliefs that were making me feel small, hard on myself, and less worthy, so I could change them to feel more confident, whole, and at peace with myself.
I can't promise you'll have any or all of the outcomes that I've had, but I can say this: committing to one simple practice has done more for me than dabbling in 10 different practices and hoping one of them finally moves the needle.Â
Consistency is the silver bullet.
Join the "I Love Myself" Experiment
